1.) How do Barovian families operate? Is it normal for an adult to live alone, particularly a woman, or would that be considered unorthodox?
A: Close nit families that only associate if at all possible with other barovians. Some have no parents so it wouldn't be look down on to live alone. (I think) Help me out info ninjas if I'm wrong here.
2.) I understand that there are "Out lander" hot spots for role play, and other factions have their own, but where are a few places where a native to the land would go to fit in, if any?
A: This was a problem i had as there are very few barovian players that are ever on line at one time. So interaction and RP with outlanders was inevitable. Naturally though associating with them heavily like my char Androvia does will cause for you to be seen by other natives as an outlander yourself. One way of dealing with this is to become a guarda, other possibilities and situations during game play will have you going in different directions anyhow. The server and its players will manipulate you in different ways depending on your RP of your alignment and it will all work its self out.
3.) Is it a heavily patriarchal society?
A: As you play the game i would say no not really. I have encountered no real job discrimination or sexism from other players. The barovian society though if I'm not mistaken feels that the kitchen might be the best place for a woman, Cooking/cleaning baby watching etc. However once again in not crystal on this sense it never came up in game and i haven't read the ravenloft books.
Hope any of this helped, and hope to see you in game.